agriculture

Not For The Faint Of Heart

/ bekoepke

I remember when I was a newlywed and I would see kids acting up in public or moms frazzled and stressed, I thought to myself that if I had kids it would be different. I mean I had babysat before, how hard could it really be?

Oh boy, have I been humbled.

I absolutely love my girls. They are so smart and seem to learn something new everyday. They never cease to amaze me with their unique personalities and creativity. That being said, this mom gig is the hardest job I have ever had in my life. Every time you start to get confident and feel like you have got this motherhood thing down, something changes.

These last two week have been quite the experience in my world. All of the fun started last Wednesday. My redneck girls love to play outside and are definitely not afraid to get dirty. For several days, these crazy girls had spent hours digging a hole in a dirt pile that we have looking for lizards. Mind you, it is too cold to find lizards, but that did not deter them. Unfortunately, my oldest was focused on her digging game and did not notice her sister was behind her, right in the path of the shovel. As expected, that encounter did not end well. My middle child got a tooth knocked out of place and a small chip off another tooth. Nothing in any parent book can prepare you for something like that!

Not really that big of a deal, you might be thinking to yourself. Lots of kids get teeth knocked out of place or chipped. Inconvenient, yes, earth shattering, no. Well, as Paul Harvey used to say, let me give you the “rest of the story”.

Over the next two days we juggled schedules (not an easy task this time of year) and got her to the dentist just to check everything out. Fortunately she is 5 1/2 years old, so we are probably within 12 months of losing those teeth anyway, so he said just to keep an eye on them, no special treatment (and no expensive dental procedures).

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Crisis averted! Well, for another day anyway. Sadly, the next crisis was only a day away. Saturday was a gorgeous day and we are within days of a good majority of our goats having babies (yay!!!). We worked all day long outside; moving goats, cleaning up, setting up a pen inside for them to kid, and moving cows and our billy goat to different pens. We had a lot to accomplish and got a ton done.

The girls were all outside helping when they could, and playing when they couldn’t. My oldest (once again) was tasked with moving a board and that is when crisis #2 happened. Without her realizing it, my youngest was right behind her and when she stepped back. She knocked both her sister and herself over. That’s when it happened. Head of oldest child hit, you guessed it, youngest child’s head. More specifically, youngest child’s teeth. As a matter of fact, it was the exact same tooth and knocked back in the exact same way as her older sister.

There is no category for something like that. Two children, the same tooth on each, in a 4 day span. Of course, it was on a Saturday so we just had to wait until Monday when I hauled the second child to the dentist for the exact same thing. I would be lying if I told you that I wasn’t afraid of CPS being called on me. However, the dentist laughed and decided to send us to a pediatric dentist because she is a lot younger. So, we wait for a verdict for my youngest child until we go see a specialist (always a cheap prospect).

There is nothing in this world that can prepare you for all the unique challenges of motherhood. You could read every motherhood book ever written and still be completely clueless because kids are not predictable. However, to all the other mommas out there in my same boat, know that you are not alone. We are in this together and will get to the other side.

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My crazy injured-tooth girls

This parenting thing is not for the faint of heart. We need to remember that. Show grace for the other moms out there. We are all doing our best, even if that doesn’t look the same for every person. Give yourself grace, it isn’t easy raising little humans. God is on our side and He is there when it gets stressful and seems impossible.

I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.

John 16:33 NIV

Prepare the Soil

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I love my garden. Each year, throughout the summer, I plant a decent size garden and this year was no exception. I absolutely love seeing my hard work come to fruition…literally. My 3 girls love eating the carrots, cucumbers, watermelons, and cantaloupes that they helped to plant. That being said, this has been an off year for my garden.  Not all of my seeds germinated, I had to re-seed some of what I planted, and a few of my plants even died. There are several reasons that this year’s garden has struggled, but I think the main reason was a bad decision we made in the process of preparing to plant. Of course, at the time we thought it was a right decision, boy were we wrong.

In preparation for our garden last year, we put a massive amount of fertilizer in with our soil in the tilling process. Because of how much we put in last year, my garden was a producing machine. I could hardly keep up with the amount of jalapenos, squash, and carrots. I actually wound up freezing or canning a lot of it because we couldn’t consume it fast enough. Fast forward to this year. While we were preparing we decided that we had added so much fertilizer last year that we were going to skip that this year, assuming that the soil was still pretty well fertilized. Big mistake. Now, don’t get me wrong, it has not been a complete failure, but it has definitely not lived up to the plan I had when I was preparing to plant.  It’s amazing how vitally important properly preparing soil is before you plant. Ask any farmer, they never just toss seeds out hoping they will grow an abundant crop.

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This picture was from earlier this summer. Unfortunately, not all my seeds came up this year.

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We did get some pretty delicious melons!

It’s the same with us.  God will never put us in a position we are not properly prepared for. There are so many instances throughout the Bible where men or women were called to do something, but it took years for it to come to fruition. David was told as a teenager that he would be king, but it took decades to come to pass (see 1 Samuel 16). Joseph had dreamed of his future as a leader, and he had to go through the prison to get there (see Genesis 37). Or, like Esther, we may be positioned somewhere without even knowing God placed us there for “just such a time as this” (see Esther 4:14).  It is often puzzling to us how we may feel called somewhere, but a door either won’t open, or perhaps what seems like a strange door does open and we are too fearful to step inside. Little do we know that during these slow, uncomfortable, or scary times, we are being prepared. We are learning during the wait. Just like it takes time to get from a seed to the harvest, we won’t typically be called to something one day, and functioning in that calling the next. Actually, if we make that jump to soon, it likely won’t work out. Just like how some of my plants died for lack of proper fertilizer.

My husband often says, “sometimes you have to pay your dues”, meaning you need to serve at a lower capacity before getting promoted or that you need to experience difficult or frustrating times before you get to the good times. Boy, do I get that. Honestly, I actually appreciate that more now that I have paid some of those dues through life experiences. I am so much more thankful for what I have today because of the things I have experienced and as tough as it is, I am going to trust God during those times when he is “preparing the soil” for the next season in my life!

Life Lessons of a Farm Kid

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When you grow up around livestock, life lessons just come with the territory. Whether it’s the joy of seeing a brand new baby born or the sadness of seeing an animal die, farm kids just learn lessons at a younger age than most other kids. This is no more true for my girls than it was a couple of weeks ago.

The miracle of life will never cease to amaze me. Whether it is my own children (even if they do drive me crazy from time to time), or a newborn animal, it makes you realize how miraculous life really is.  What has been even more of a blessing than anything else is being able to see my girls experience all those things.

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I love watching my girls jump in and start to take responsibility for basic chores as they grow. My oldest daughter loves to check for eggs in the chicken coop (or in their playhouse, whichever the chickens choose to use on any given day). Her two little sisters almost always follow suit, sometimes resulting in a broken egg or two. All three love to help daddy whenever they can, right now it has been building fence. During the spring and summer, all three love to help check for vegetables in the garden, often resulting in some vegetables knocked off the vine or pulled before they are actually ripe.

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Over the last month we have had another new responsibility added, and have had to learn a hard life lesson. During an extreme cold snap last month, several of our boer goats chose to have their babies all within the span of about 36 hours. Through a series of different circumstances, 2 of those babies ended up orphaned and needing to be bottle fed. One was on the verge of dying and ended up living in our house for over a week. She, or Hope as we named her, became a part of the family and after being a house goat for as long as she was, my girls (and I) became quite attached. Once she pulled through we moved her out with the other little orphan into their own pen. She did really well, until one of those hard life lessons hit unexpectedly. Sadly, after being out and doing well for quite a while, I found Hope dead one morning. Although we don’t know for sure what happened to her, it really didn’t matter to 3 little girls (and their mom). We were all devastated at the loss. Whether it is an old dog, a kitten, or a baby goat, that conversation never gets easier. However, my girls showed some sweet resilience. Although it wasn’t a conversation I wanted to have to have, when I broke the news to my oldest we were able to talk about death and heaven. After a good, hard cry, she made a sweet card for Hope and spent some extra time with our other orphan baby, Oliver.

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As a mother, it’s so easy to want to shield our kids from hard things. But those hard things are exactly what builds resilience and can shape their character. This isn’t just the case with the the hard stuff like the death of a pet. It is also true with the daily routine of kids learning to do chores and learning the value of hard work. I am so proud of my girls when I see how they work for their dad. They love to do the little tasks that they are able to do, and my 7 year old is turning into quite the hand.

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“Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.” James 1:2-4

This verse has always served true in my life, and I know that every hard thing my girls go through will also help them to develop the perseverance they need to reach maturity. My prayer is that their father and I will help them to learn those lessons well.